Children and Divorce eBook Review

Many of the resources that you run across while getting a divorce will focus on how to become an independent person, how to rebuild “your” life and how to separate emotionally and physically from your ex-spouse. Unfortunately, while these processes may be necessary to some degree, if you have children with your ex-spouse they can be counter-productive to your parenting responsibilities. To resolve the blatant oversight of helping kids through their parent’s divorce one eBook emerged, 101 Ways to Diffuse the Divorce Battle for Your Kids Sake.

Highlights of the eBook

When you go through a divorce it is easy to fall prey to bitterness and self-preservation tactics that feed divorce battles over money and things. Unfortunately, these tactics also often drag your children into the battle as one more “thing” that needs to be won. What 101 Ways to Diffuse the Divorce Battle for Your Kids Sake presents, is that you need to stop thinking of your children as a marital asset that has to be won, and instead view them as the treasure that needs to be protected.

Throughout this ebook you will be given ideas, tips and steps to take to put your kids’ well-being first in your divorce. One strategy, for example, that is given, is to divide your divorce process into two unique negotiations. One negotiation will focus upon the material assets of your marriage. This negotiation can be all business and you can do what it takes to preserve your rights to the “things” that you amassed during your marriage. The second negotiating realm will relate to your children and your parenting. Here, you are not negotiating “things,” but rather developing a new parenting partnership with your ex-spouse.

This concept of parenting partnership development is my favorite aspect of this ebook. Taking this perspective allows parents to recognize the need to establish a whole new relationship with their ex-spouse so that their children have two parents active in their lives. While this relationship will have conflicts, it will help to reduce how many conflicts you experience.

The utilization of a mediator is one recommendation made by this eBook. A mediator will help you to overcome your initial conflicts and help you to establish a more functional avenue of communication.
Whether you are just starting the divorce process or if you have already been divorced for years, this ebook is helpful. Read this eBook and you will learn how to build a stronger divorced family unit.

Smart Divorce: Raising Happy Healthy Kids was written as a result of the author, Madeline Binder's own divorce experience and her Master's Degree thesis. Come join the discussion at the Children and Divorce Blog.